What could be more terrifying than talking to someone you’re attracted to?
Flirting is almost an art form. It takes much practice to execute the subtle signals of interest with perfect timing.
People flirt for all kinds of reasons:
Sex: trying to get in bed
Fun: treating it like a sport
Exploring: trying to see what it would be like to be in a relationship
Relational: trying to increase the intimacy of a relationship
Esteem: increasing one’s own self esteem
Instrumental: trying to get something from the other person
Women are masters of confusion, so it’s your job to remain especially aware of every gesture, every word, and every move she throws your way. Always remember that attentiveness is key.
Although the signs that a woman is interested in you can boil down to these points, you need to know that any single point can be misleading.
The lady you’re chatting up may be an attention-seeking serial flirter with no intentions of ever going on a date with you… she’s just waiting for her friend to get back from the bathroom.
The following flirting signs are good for all settings, whether in a coffee shop, restaurant, nightclub, or (WOAH) even work. So sharpen your senses and read on.
She keeps glancing overAre her eyes aimed at you every time you look her way? And does she give you a few winks? Then you might have a potential here. If she doesn’t delay the eye contact, then she’s probably shy and needs a little sweet-talking from you. Go up to her, introduce yourself, and get her talking. Just don’t be weird. You know you’re doing well when…
She smiles at youThe smile is a huge sign of openness and friendliness, provided it is sincere and not bitchy. Many people force a smile when trying to be polite, but they tend to be fairly obvious about it. If she shows her teeth (hoping they are white), then you can assume that she’s into you. Your only job is to keep her smiling by smiling back. You can do it!
She goes out of her way to get you to notice her. If she is on here way from point A to point B, she takes an unnecessary detour through point C (you), does a little hair flip, she might be trying to get your attention. For instance, if she walks by your table “on her way” to the bathroom in a cluster with her 3 BFFs in a bar, but your table is located at the opposite end of the restrooms, she is probably interested. Why else would she be taking the
long way? Get with the program.
She plays with her hairWomen’s hair is a source of power and confidence to them. Why else would they cry after a bad haircut? Hair is used at key moments, subconsciously unleashing its seductive potential. If you see her twirling her finger through it or throwing it around, like in a shampoo commercial, then you have a flirt potential.
This goes for body language in general. Some women like exposing their necks, wearing crop-tops, or placing their arms in front of them in a way that their biceps push their boobs together, One huge tip I can give is if she’s crossing her arms, it means she’s distancing herself. Get the hint. And walk away.
Sheǯs chatting up your best friend but keeps her eyes on you. Sometimes a woman will flirt with your friend just to try to tempt you, but she’ll make sure it’s always within your vision and will direct most of the energy toward you. I’m not a fan of this. I think it’s backward, game-playing nonsense, but some people do play this card. Instead, don’t be shy and just flirt!
She initiates the conversation. Taking the first step to initiate a connection with you is a huge sign that she’s interested. If she tells you something like “You remind me of someone I know,” which begs a response and subsequent conversation, that’s a good sign.If the conversation continues to spark, she might also whisper “secrets” to you, bringing your faces close together, perhaps letting you get a good whiff of her perfume. Ooo La La.
She laughs at your jokes. Basically is she laughing or just starring at you when you make a funny. A big part of flirting involves reactions to the partner, so if she acts fascinated by your words, you’re in the clear.
She draws attention to her lips. A woman’s mouth can be extremely seductive. Some of the effective signs she’s flirting are: applying lip gloss, running her finger across her lip or using the straw in her cocktail instead of just sipping from the glass. There is a great amount of flirtatious energy tied up in a woman’s lips.
She asks if you like certain activities. Does she ask you about your hobbies? Is she being more specific, and asking you if you like a particular team? Even though she may have no idea what basketball even means, she cares. Don’t worry, just because she asks if you have been to a Laker game before doesn’t mean she is hinting she wants you to take her to one, unless this is a tinder date, and well…. don’t take her home.
She pays you a compliment. Women don’t just give compliment’s, so if she throws one your way, you can pat yourself on the back. This is especially good if it has to do with your body, as this implies that she is attracted to you. Another way she may show her interest is by repeating your name, letting you know that she will remember you. If she
says your name like every other 4 seconds though, ditch her.
She makes sexual comments. Some women like to put themselves in the mood by talking about things that turn them on. It brings out their playful side. So if she starts the conversation with sexy topics she could be telling you it’s already time to leave the bar. Most times they will keep it classy and under the radar, so you should do the same.
She touches you. When a woman breaks the contact barrier during a conversation, it is almost a sure sign that she’s interested. Wheteher she touches your knee, shoulder or who knows… she is down.
A less direct way of touching you would be is she mirrors your body language, which is something women do subconsciously. When you lean in, she leans in. When you rest your elbows on the table, she does the same. Copying your actions is her way of showing you that she’s “in-synch” with you. Basically, she likes you!
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